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Recently, I just realised that many people around me are having relationship problems. I've heard problems from 4 couples are 2 other singles. Even me couldnt escape totally without being scarred. While I'm still recovering from the fears in me, I can't help but think of everyone else.

Relationships are bound to have problems? Thats a burning question on my mind. But as far as I realised, problems are usually due to the guy neglecting the girl for another hobby (esp games). I very much believe that we,gals, need a fair share of attention at times. Of course, the guy could have time to himself too. But always doing this is a no-no for me. It just makes one think that games which is a non-living thing is more important than a bubbly moving creature.

And most of the time, we have the tendency to compare. Comparing with ur frens in love. Probably, not comparing will mean less problems.

Gals will always love to stay in the Honeymoon period of a relationship (usually the first few months). I was fortunate to retain that for more than one year. Trying not to let it leave my grasp now. And of course each of us have a set of different expectations laid for the relationship. A terrible problem to an outsider may just seem minor to you and vice versa. So listen to your heart, is "these" what you want? Its okae to consider people's opinion but they, having a different set of expectations, may lead you into making the wrong decisions.

Nevetheless, a relationship still need 3 basic factors to build on and strengthen:
1. Degree of Communication
2. Level of Communality
3. Amount of external support.


**random thoughts

Labels: inner voices

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