First desserts at ben & jerry since Cheeky's return!

27 Sep 08 -Ben & Jerry at Cathay

And the night's talk bout RESPONSIBLE men...

It's always good to have something you used to have and love so much. The usual late nights out, one activity after another. To be able to do things together without too much of a hesitation, all in the name of enjoyment and fulfilment. Just hafa admit that recurring mental burden is bad. Too bad I was alil tired after movie and became less conversational..

We talked bout how likely one in love can easily Cognitive Dissonance. Not that I agree with him that I'm committing such a dissonace too. Consiciously, I know i'm not.

In fact I think that Self-fulfilling Prophecies is more likely..If you look at the most basic way of how this mechanism works..it seems like everyone suffers from it.

Expectations towards somebody -> you therefore behave in a certain way somewhat congruent to your expectations -> person in a specific way coz of way of treatment -> Confirm your expectations.

Sometimes I wonder how detectable is this? OR can you actually detect it? It's so easy and normal that you treat ur loved ones better...and reciprocation, supposedly traits of a good character. Reciprocity in kindness at least. If it exists, in this case, I think self-fufilling prophecies are happening in a 2-way direction.

OH. and who's trying too hard? The fact that one probably need to sustain their self-esteem through a series of reminders and goals. And I believe self-esteem is etched into one in the most sub-consicious manner. It's only when u think that you are more superior than others out there then will you feel good about yourself. Frankly speaking, I feel that self-esteem should be a relative cognitive element than an absolute one. Or for the least, you have to nativfy it.

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